Are you a lone wolf? 9 personality traits of people who enjoy being alone

by Adrian Volenik | March 4, 2024, 5:47 pm

I’ll be honest with you – I haven’t met many people who were true lone wolves. But the ones I did left quite an impression on me.

Not only were they incredibly smart, but they valued their independence and autonomy more than anything else. 

Almost every lone wolf shares some core traits with other lone wolves. So, if you think you’re one, here are the personality traits you need to have. 

1) They’re comfortable making decisions on their own

Are you someone who tends to make decisions and carve your own path without relying too much on others for advice and direction?

Being a lone wolf means having the ability to make decisions and take actions on your own, okay?

You need to be self-reliant and have confidence in your choices, even when there’s no one around you to guide and help you.

In fact, you probably thrive when there’s no one around you telling you what to do, right? You aren’t out there shunning people, but you’re more than able to make your own choices and decisions. 

Why rely on others and pull them by their sleeves when they’ll just slow you down? If you want something done right, do it yourself. 

That’s my motto, and if you’re a lone wolf, I’m sure it’s yours too. 

2) They don’t rely heavily on others for their needs

Self-sufficiency means you can meet your own needs without heavy reliance on others. You simply believe in your abilities and know where you’re going and how to get there.

For example, imagine your car breaks down unexpectedly. Because you’re self-sufficient, you know how to fix some basic things on a car. In fact, you might have even more knowledge than that.

That means you can assess the situation, identify the issue, and attempt to fix it without immediately calling the AAA.

You’re not calling your daddy to come help you. You’re resourceful and capable of many things. 

3) They gain energy from being alone 

I’d say that most, if not all, lone wolves are introverts, right? Do you, too, find that you recharge and feel most at ease when you have some time alone, away from others?

Some lone wolves outright hate other people, and being around them makes their blood boil.

I don’t think that’s true for most of them. It’s simply that they function better when they’re alone, and there’s no one to interfere and stand in the way.

I’d say you need to strike a balance and find a way to enjoy the company of others, but that’s not the way of a true lone wolf. They’re not the ones who compromise.

So, if you’re at your best when you’re alone, and you don’t crave the company of others, I’d say that’s perfectly sound, and you shouldn’t worry about it. 

Nowhere does it say that we have to be surrounded by people or even married and have kids. 

It’s not for everyone, is it? 

4) They can find contentment and fulfillment in their own company

Okay, so it’s no surprise lone wolves love spending time alone more than anything else. It’s because spending time alone means they’re free from societal pressures and free of the drama and stress that often accompanies social interactions.

I’m introverted, but I’m far from being a lone wolf. Still, even I hate working in an office, for instance. 

Not just because office work is incredibly boring to me but more so because of office politics, drama, and the false courtesy everyone has for each other. 

In reality, no one will miss you when you’re gone, and in an office, everyone is dispensable. If you dropped dead today, they’d probably find a replacement for you by the afternoon, and then it’s business as usual. 

5) Enjoying solitude often means reflecting on thoughts and experiences

People who enjoy being alone use this time for introspection, assessing their personal growth, and really getting to know themselves.

They take a moment, look back on the journey, celebrate wins, and figure out where they can step up their game. 

This ongoing self-assessment is a key component of their personal growth.

They also clarify what truly matters to them so they can make better decisions in the future. Something we could all be doing, right? But, let’s be real, not many of us do.

So, for example, if you’re a lone wolf, you take time alone to process and understand your emotions, whether it’s joy, sadness, or frustration. 

6) Alone time provides the concentration they need

If you’re similar to me, you work much better when there’s no one around you. That’s why I love working from home. 

And, although my wife and son interrupt me a hundred times a day, it’s different than being surrounded by conversations, background noise, or other people’s activities. 

I even like being interrupted by my family as we share a hug, smile, or a brief moment of joy together. 

To this day, I can’t wrap my head around why some people go to work on their laptops at Starbucks, of all places.   

I know everyone has their preferred work environment. Some thrive in bustling, social spaces, while others need a quiet and solitary atmosphere. 

Now, for the lone wolves, being on their own lets them dive into activities with full focus.

When you’re by yourself, it gives you a chance to really think deeply and reflect on things. 

You can think about ideas, figure out how to handle different situations, and really understand things on a deeper level. 

You can take your sweet time to explore and fully wrap your head around what’s happening. 

7) They’re able to handle challenges and bounce back on their own 

For many lone wolves, resilience is their superpower. No matter what hits them, they bounce back, relying on their inner strength instead of looking for backup.

When confronted with challenges, they approach them methodically, analyzing the situation and finding practical solutions.

That’s why it’s not such a big deal for them to lose a job, for example. They know what they know and are quick to rebound by updating their resume, finding and exploring new opportunities, and turning a job loss into a career pivot.

They take a moment to reflect, find their own way through the storm, and come out the other side with a clearer perspective.

Ultimately, they acknowledge what they’re going through and deal with it in a composed way, not letting the emotions completely take the wheel.

But you know what else helps? They’re not rushing but have a lot of patience. 

8) They’re patient

Let me ask you something. Are you a patient person? Do you need everything now? Are you okay with spending days at a time alone?

I’m asking you this because lone wolves are the zen masters of patience. They’ve got this chilled-out vibe, like they’re in no rush, even when the world around them is on fast-forward.

So, what’s their secret? Well, they’re not just twiddling their thumbs and waiting. They have a different attitude. They can wait for things to unfold without getting all antsy.

And that’s perhaps the trait most people are missing these days. Everyone wants things now but isn’t prepared to work for it. 

If you think about how you got where you are now, even if you had moderate success, you probably deserved it, right? You didn’t get it handed over. 

9) They’re grounded

Another thing that separates most people who enjoy being alone and those who don’t is that they know who they are and what they stand for. 

In a world full of influences and trends, they don’t easily get swayed. They’re authentic, staying true to who they are without compromising their identity to fit in.

They also know how to juggle responsibilities and pleasures without losing their center. They strike a balance between work, play, and personal time, ensuring they don’t get overwhelmed by any one aspect of life.

If you look around you, that’s almost an art these days, as people are either overworked or they indulge in pleasure too much. 

How to find happiness and satisfaction in your own company

Lone wolves teach us that spending time alone is a golden opportunity for self-discovery. It’s a chance to explore our interests, passions, and even quirks.

Embracing solitude allows us to understand ourselves better.

You need to find contentment within, be comfortable making decisions solo, and not rely too heavily on others for happiness.

Ultimately, being a lone wolf isn’t about avoiding people. It’s about finding happiness within yourself, whether you’re in a crowd or enjoying your own company.

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