If you display these 9 behaviors, you have a resilient mindset

by Brendan Brown | December 26, 2023, 12:46 am

How you handle life’s ups and downs says a lot about your resilience.

In a world that often seems chaotic and uncertain, a resilient mindset can be your best friend. 

So, how can you tell if you’ve got what it takes to get through life’s tough times?

Here are some tell-tale signs that your mindset is resilient, even if you don’t realize it.

1) You embrace change

Change is inevitable and uncontrollable, but how you react to it is within your control. 

If you’re the kind of person who sees change as a chance to grow, not as a setback, you’re already showing that you have a strong mindset.

You see, change can be uncomfortable, but it’s often in those moments of discomfort that we learn the most about ourselves.

Think about it: 

The biggest breakthroughs in life often happen when we’re pushed out of what’s comfortable for us.

2) You see failure as a learning opportunity

Everybody fails; it’s part of being human. 

But not everyone learns from their failures. 

If you see failure as an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve, you’ve got a resilient mindset. 

Here’s the thing: This means you know that the road to success has bumps and potholes, and that’s completely okay.

In my experience, people with a resilient mindset don’t just tolerate failure; they’re open to it. 

They take it apart, look at it closely, and learn how not to make the same mistake again. 

Remember, failure isn’t the opposite of success. Actually, it’s a key part of your journey and when you learn the most.

3) You focus on what you can control

Let’s face it; there are plenty of things in life we can’t control. 

But that doesn’t mean we’re powerless.

So, the key here is to recognize the difference between what you can and can’t control.

Resilient individuals focus on what they can, such as their actions and responses. 

In simple terms, they understand that worrying about things they can’t change is a quick way to feel stressed and anxious.

If this sounds like you, there’s no doubt in my mind you have a resilient mindset. 

4) You maintain a positive outlook

Do you look at the glass as half full? 

A resilient mindset isn’t synonymous with blind optimism

However, it does mean you’re more likely to focus on the brighter side of life. 

Even in tough situations, you look for the silver lining or the lesson to be learned.

What’s amazing about this is that positivity breeds positivity. The more you focus on the good, the more good you attract into your life. 

It sounds almost too simple, but it’s true. I’ve seen it happen over and over again. 

But, being positive doesn’t mean you ignore hard times; it means you have the courage to face them with hope.

5) You seek support and offer it in return

Human beings are social creatures; we thrive on connection. 

If you’re the type who seeks support from your friends, family, or even professionals when you’re going through a tough time, it’s a sign of resilience. 

The truth is, it shows you’re emotionally smart and you understand that no one goes through life alone.

At the same time, offering a helping hand to others in their time of need is equally indicative of a resilient mindset. 

Simply put, it means you’re not just thinking about yourself; you get that helping others also helps you.

6) You practice self-compassion

It’s amazing how big a difference a little self-love can make in your ability to be resilient.

We often talk about being kind to others, but what about being kind to ourselves? 

People with strong mindsets understand how important it is to be kind to themselves.

It means not beating yourself up over every mistake or perceived inadequacy. Instead, it’s about treating yourself with the same kindness you’d offer to a good friend in a similar situation.

I’ve often noticed that when people are compassionate towards themselves, they’re better equipped to bounce back from hardships. 

That’s because they don’t spend time stuck in self-criticism. They acknowledge their faults, forgive themselves, and then use that emotional energy to forge ahead. 

Does this sound like you? 

7) You adapt and overcome

Being adaptable is not just about getting through life’s challenges; it’s about doing well even when things are tough.

Adapting means you’re willing to pivot when you realize your first (or second or third) approach isn’t working.

What’s fascinating about adaptability is that it encourages creative problem-solving. 

When you’re flexible in your methods, you open the door to solutions you might never have considered otherwise. 

All of this is a sign you have a resilient mindset. 

8) You value gratitude and practice it regularly

I can’t stress enough how focusing on the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small, can lift your spirits and strengthen your mental resolve.

Being thankful and being resilient go together.

Although gratitude doesn’t make problems disappear, it does make them more manageable.

People with resilient mindsets often have a gratitude practice—whether that’s jotting down thankful thoughts in a journal or mentally counting their blessings.

The truth is, this habit takes you out of negative thinking and helps you see things in a bigger way.

So, when you focus on what you’re grateful for, it becomes a lot harder to dwell on what you lack or what you’re going through. 

9) You set healthy boundaries

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is a vital component of a resilient mindset. It shows that you value your time, your energy, and, most importantly, yourself. 

But don’t get it wrong; this isn’t about shutting people out. It’s about making a healthy space where you can do well.

Setting boundaries can be tough, especially when you fear disappointing others or being rejected. 

But, I can tell you from what I know, the tough feeling is worth it in the end. A life without boundaries is a life led on others’ terms, not yours. 

I’m still working on this. I have to say, it’s the hardest thing for me to get right.

But as I look at all the resilient people around me, I know it’s a skill I have to keep working at. 


So, there you have it…

If you find yourself nodding along to these points, chances are you’ve got a resilient mindset. 

And even if you’re just starting on your journey to resilience, these traits provide a valuable starting point. 

You see, you’ve got the power to build your own resilience, one choice at a time. 

Remember, you aren’t born strong; you get strong from what happens to you in life and from the choices you make.

Live a life full of growth, strength, and, most importantly, resilience.

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