If you expect these 10 things in a man, you have unrealistically high standards

We all dream about the perfect man, right? But sometimes, we ask for things that are just too much.

Believe it or not, expecting less can actually lead to a happier relationship.

Let’s go through the 10 expectations you might have that are setting the bar too high.

You might just find it eye-opening. 

1. Seeing him as a mind reader

Sometimes, we expect men to understand everything we’re feeling without uttering a word.

But guess what? Men aren’t mind readers. Communication is key in any relationship.

If you feel something, say it. Don’t expect him to know what you’re thinking or feeling all the time.

It’s not fair to him and it’s not good for your relationship either.

Remember, clarity is way better than assumptions!

2. Expecting him to be your everything

Sure, your man plays a significant role in your life, but expecting him to be your end-all-be-all isn’t realistic or healthy.

It’s important to have other relationships and interests outside of your partner.

Rely on friends, family, and hobbies to fulfill different parts of your life.

Remember, no one person can cater to all your emotional, social, or intellectual needs – and that’s okay. 

3. Wanting him to always agree with you

We all love when someone agrees with us, right?

But expecting your man to always agree with you is unrealistic.

Take it from me.

In my past relationship, I loved when my partner agreed with my movie choices, food preferences, and even opinions on social issues.

But one day we had a disagreement and I was taken aback. It took me some time to realize that it’s natural and healthy for couples to have different opinions sometimes.

He’s an individual with his own thoughts and beliefs. Embrace the differences and learn from each other. 

4. Anticipating he’ll always be in a good mood

Expecting your man to always be in a good mood is like expecting the sun to shine every single day. It’s just not possible.

Everyone has mood swings from time to time. It’s a part of being human!

So, don’t expect him to always be upbeat and cheerful. Understand that he too can have off days and it’s completely normal.

5. Expecting him to fix all your problems

Life throws us curveballs, and it’s comforting to have someone by your side during such times.

But expecting your man to solve all your problems isn’t fair or realistic.

He can support you, lend an ear, hold your hand, but he can’t magically make all the difficulties disappear.

It’s a part of life to face challenges and grow through them.

You are strong and capable, and sometimes, the best person to fix a problem is the one facing it.

6. Believing he’ll never look at other women

Let’s be honest, we all notice attractive people. I remember once I was out with my partner and I noticed him glancing at a woman passing by.

My initial reaction was insecurity and jealousy.

But then, I realized that just because he noticed her, it doesn’t mean he loves me any less.

It’s natural to appreciate beauty. What matters is loyalty and respect in a relationship.

As long as he treats you with respect and remains faithful, a harmless glance shouldn’t be an issue.

7. Assuming he’ll change after marriage

If there are things about your man you’re hoping will change post-marriage, it’s time for a reality check.

People rarely change their fundamental habits or behaviors just because of a change in relationship status.

If he’s a messy person before marriage, he’ll likely be messy after too.

If he has commitment issues now, they won’t magically disappear with a ring.

Love him for who he is right now, not who you hope he’ll become.

8. Wanting him to always take the initiative

While it’s romantic when a man takes the lead in planning dates or surprises, expecting him to always take initiative can be unfair.

Relationships are more satisfying when responsibilities and initiatives are shared.

So, step up and plan that date or express your feelings first sometimes. It’s all about balance. 

9. Expecting him to never make mistakes

We’re all human, and making mistakes is part of the deal.

I remember in my own relationship, I used to get upset over small errors my partner made.

One day, he forgot our anniversary and I was devastated. But then I took a step back and realized, it was just a mistake.

We talked it out, he apologized sincerely, and we moved on.

What’s important is not the mistake itself, but how we handle it and learn from it. 

10. Hoping he’ll complete you

The idea that another person will complete you or make you whole is a myth perpetuated by fairy tales and romantic comedies.

In reality, you are a complete person on your own.

Your happiness and fulfillment should not hinge entirely on another person.

A partner can share your life, bring joy, and enrich your experiences, but he can’t fill in your personal gaps.

That journey is yours alone to take.

So, focus on self-growth, self-love, and remember that you are enough just as you are.