If you have been hurt many times and you still know how to smile in the face of your challenges, you probably have these character traits

by Jelena Dincic | January 22, 2024, 7:00 am

Life’s tough, but so are you.

Time and time again you’ve been hurt, but instead of falling apart and giving up, you keep moving forward with a smile on your face.

So what is it about you that sets you apart from everyone else?

How do you keep smiling in the face of pain and adversity?

Because not only are you resilient – but you’ve actually got some pretty powerful character traits.

Let’s take a look at these amazing traits that transform challenges into stepping stones toward a brighter future.

Here are 14 character traits of someone who keeps smiling, even though they’ve been hurt many times in the past.

1) Optimism

The first trait I have to mention is optimism.

When facing the various challenges life throws at them, optimists can maintain a positive outlook.

That’s because they believe that every dark cloud has a silver lining and that even though things are bad at the moment, they won’t always be that way.

Now, the great thing about optimists is that they like to focus on finding solutions to problems instead of dwelling on them – that’s why they’re able to keep smiling.

After all, tomorrow is a new day and who knows what it may bring.

So, are you an optimist?

2) Resilience

This is a pretty useful trait to have.

Sadly, many people let setbacks and adversity get the best of them.

They let difficult times break them and stop them from moving forward.

But not resilient people, they’re tough!

That’s not to say that they don’t feel hurt and pain.

Of course, they do, but once the initial shock wears off, they’re able to bounce back.

They can endure hardships and they always find a way of overcoming difficulties.

Their resilience is part of the reason they can go through life smiling.

Does that sound like you?

3) Perspective

Here’s another trait that’s good to have.

You see, having a broad perspective on life means being able to see the big picture.

That means understanding that various challenges and difficulties are a natural part of life and that with the good times come the bad.

So, even if they’ve been hurt many times, people who have perspective know that pain – like joy – is part of the human experience.

It’s what helps them maintain their composure during tough times.

4) Adaptability

Another reason people like yourself are able to keep smiling through painful times is that you’re adaptable.

You know that nothing is set in stone, which is why you’re able to adapt to changing circumstances.

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and people who can adjust and embrace change have a much easier time going forward.

Those who can’t, those who are set on things being a certain way or have a fixed idea of how their lives should be, end up suffering and aren’t able to keep smiling through the tough times.

5) Sense of humor

Humor plays an important part in our lives so don’t take it for granted!

People who know how to smile through painful times find humor in difficult situations.

For example, they’re the kind of people who will find something to laugh about at a funeral – because, after all, life must go on.

Humor is basically a kind of coping mechanism that reminds us that even when we’re hurting, it’s not all bad.

And don’t think that having a sense of humor dismisses the seriousness of a situation, of course not.

But it can be a great way to lighten the emotional load and people with a sense of humor have an easier time going through life..

6) Gratitude

It turns out that people who practice gratitude – who take time at the end of each day to go through all the things they’re grateful for in their lives – are more likely to smile than those who don’t.

You see, it’s all about being able to shift the focus from negative to positive aspects of life.

So say for example that you lose your job, not much to smile about, right?


Upon reflection, you’ll realize that there’s a lot to be grateful for – your family, friends, health, the food on the table, the roof over your head.

Finding things to be thankful for will keep that smile on your face and as for the job, you’ll find another!

7) Emotional Intelligence

Look, emotional intelligence is all about understanding and managing your emotions.

It’s also about having empathy and understanding other people’s emotions.

And if you have emotional intelligence, it can make all the difference between wearing a smile and wearing a frown.

Being able to understand why people act the way they do – why they sometimes do hurtful things – can be extremely useful in navigating difficult situations.

You see, sometimes people say or do hurtful things because they’re going through a hard time – maybe work’s not going too well; maybe they’re getting a divorce; or maybe they were just not brought up to consider other people’s feelings.

When you can recognize what’s going on and understand human behavior to some degree, it’s so much easier not to take everything so personally.

In short, keeping your emotions in check is one of the keys to keeping a smile on your face no matter what kind of challenges you face.

8) Self-compassion

The thing is that self-compassion allows people to acknowledge their pain while remembering to value themselves.

People who lack self-compassion tend to hurt twice as much as people who have self-compassion.

They feel like they deserve to suffer and that the other person was right to hurt them, “They were right to dump me. I don’t deserve someone so great in my life. I’m such a loser…”

That’s why it’s super important to be kind to oneself and not overly self-critical.

9) Open-mindedness

I’m not saying that by being open-minded you can somehow escape hurt.

However, being open-minded means being more likely to embrace different perspectives and solutions.

And when you’re able to do that, it helps you find creative ways to deal with the challenges you face and keep on smiling.

10) Humility

Humility is all about recognizing your limitations and imperfections.

When you accept that you’re not perfect and that life is inherently flawed, you’re better equipped to cope with disappointments and setbacks.

What’s more, humble people don’t have huge egos and that means they’re less likely to be deeply wounded by criticism, rejection, or failure

This acceptance will lead to a more positive and realistic outlook on life and make it much easier to deal with hurt and pain and overcome challenging times.

11) Forgiveness

Did you know that anger and resentment are very heavy burdens to bear?

It’s true.

And it just so happens that the person they usually end up hurting the most isn’t the person these feelings are aimed at, but the person feeling them!

That’s why people who are able to forgive others, as well as themselves, are able to keep on smiling through thick and thin.

You see, being able to forgive others (and oneself) for past mistakes can free up a lot of emotional energy and contribute to a more positive mindset.

12) Strength

You know what they say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.

Well, that’s certainly true for people like yourself.

No matter how many times you’ve been hurt – by friends and lovers – you haven’t lost your smile.

You’ve been able to take away something from each painful experience, learn and grow, and become a stronger version of yourself.

13) Courage

And not just strength, it also takes courage to face adversity with a smile and to put yourself out there time and time again, despite your fears.

Even though no one knows what the future will bring – people who’ve faced repeated hurt can somehow summon the courage to confront various challenges.

14) Faith

Finally, I have to mention faith because it’s what keeps a lot of people going.

It involves belief, trust, and confidence in something greater than oneself, whether it be a religious belief, spiritual conviction, or trust in a larger purpose.

Faith can be a great source of strength by giving one a sense of hope and assurance that there is meaning and purpose in life.

It also offers guidance and helps people understand challenging situations and find solutions.

And another thing – being part of a faith community can provide a sense of belonging, shared values, and a support system during difficult times, and that’s certainly a good reason to keep smiling.

Final thoughts

If you’ve been hurt time and time again and yet still know how to smile, it’s a testament to some pretty awesome character traits.

We’re talking optimism, resilience, strength, courage, and faith.

These traits aren’t just survival tools; they’re the reasons you can face adversity with a grin.

Deep down you know that no matter what, you’ll be okay.

Here’s to you and your incredible strength and resilience.

Keep on smiling!

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