If you recognize these 7 patterns in your partner’s behavior, you’re with someone who deeply respects you

We all crave respect in our relationships. But are you getting it?

Sometimes, it’s hard to tell.

You put in the effort to communicate, to compromise, to love unconditionally. And what do you get in return?

You guessed it… mixed signals and confusion.

It can feel like you’re just an extra in your partner’s life story, like you’re not truly seen or valued for who you are.

If you’re nodding along, know that you’re not alone.

Many of us struggle to discern whether we’re genuinely respected by our partners or not.

But here’s the thing – it may not be as bad as you think. You might be more appreciated than you realize. The signs aren’t always glaringly obvious.

Today, I’m going to share seven patterns in your partner’s behavior that indicate deep respect.

1) They listen intently

Remember when you were telling them about your day, the grueling meeting with your boss, or the hilarious incident with your colleague?

And they were there, truly present and soaking in every word? That’s a sign of deep respect.

In my own relationship, I’ve noticed that my partner actively listens when I talk.

He puts his phone down, makes eye contact, and engages in the conversation. He doesn’t just nod or give monosyllabic responses. He asks questions, laughs at my jokes, and offers insight.

This kind of attentive listening is a clear sign that he respects me and values what I have to say.

2) They value your opinion

Has your partner ever sought your advice on something important to them? It could be about their career, a personal problem, or even something as simple as what to wear to an event.

This indicates that they respect your judgment and value your opinion.

Let me give you a personal example.

My partner was recently offered a job at a high-profile company. Before making the decision, he asked for my opinion, we discussed the pros and cons together. He didn’t just do this out of courtesy; he genuinely wanted my input because he respects my perspective.

If you see these patterns in your partner’s behavior, it’s likely that they hold you in high regard.

3) They show genuine appreciation

When your partner consistently acknowledges and appreciates the little things you do, that’s a telltale sign of respect.

Appreciation promotes happiness and commitment in relationships, according to research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

The study found that individuals who felt appreciated by their partners were more likely to appreciate their partners in return and take steps to nurture the relationship over the long term.

So, if your partner is regularly saying ‘thank you’ for the meals you cook, the chores you do, or just for being there for them, it’s because they respect and value your efforts and your role in their life.

4) They respect your boundaries

Boundaries serve as the invisible lines that define our personal space, our comfort zone. When your partner respects these lines, it’s a clear signal of their deep respect for you.

I’ve seen couples where one person’s boundaries are constantly overstepped – be it in terms of personal space, time, or even emotional boundaries. This can lead to feelings of discomfort and disrespect.

But when your partner respects your boundaries, they’re saying, “I see you. I respect you. Your feelings matter to me.”

This understanding and respect for your personal boundaries is a beautiful testament to the depth of their respect for you.

5) They support your passions

If your partner encourages you to pursue your interests and passions, even if they don’t share them, it’s a sure sign of respect.

I am a voracious reader and love spending hours lost in a book. My partner, on the other hand, would rather watch paint dry than read a novel. But he never mocks my passion for reading.

Instead, he will often surprise me with the latest book from my favorite author or clear his schedule so I can attend a book signing or a literary festival.

This kind of support for my interests, despite his personal preferences, is a clear sign that he respects me as an individual with my own passions and pursuits.

6) They seek your comfort

One of the subtler signs of respect in a relationship is when your partner consistently makes an effort to ensure your comfort.

Whether it’s adjusting the car seat to your liking, ensuring you get the comfier side of the couch, or simply asking if you are comfortable in a crowded social setting.

In my relationship, my partner always walks on the side closer to the road when we’re strolling on a sidewalk. It’s a small gesture but speaks volumes about his regard for my safety and comfort.

7) They celebrate your successes

Finally, a partner who respects you will celebrate your successes and achievements – big or small.

They won’t see your success as a threat or feel overshadowed by it. Instead, they will be your biggest cheerleader, celebrating every milestone with genuine happiness.

According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, couples who responded positively to each other’s good news were generally happier in their relationships and had lower rates of breakup.

So, if your partner is excited when you succeed and shows genuine pride in your achievements, you can be sure that they deeply respect you.

Final thoughts

Recognizing these patterns in your partner’s behavior can reassure you about their respect for you.

But remember, respect is a two-way street. It’s not just about recognizing these signs in your partner but also about reciprocating them to maintain a healthy, respectful relationship.