If you recognize these 7 signs, you’re more than happy being alone

by Tina Fey | March 20, 2024, 5:57 pm

You know the saying, “Better alone than in bad company”?

If you find yourself nodding in agreement with George Washington, then this article is for you.

Being alone doesn’t have to mean you’re lonely or missing out. In fact, solitude can be incredibly empowering.

It provides time for self-reflection, creativity, and building a life that you don’t need a vacation from.

If any of this resonates with you, read on. We’re about to dive into the 7 signs that show you’re not just okay with being alone—you absolutely love it.

1) You value your independence

This was a realization I embraced wholeheartedly.

For some reason,“being social” often stems from the idea that our happiness is interwoven with others. But the truth is, our happiness blossoms from within, independent of others.

Let me delve a bit deeper.

Think about the moments when you were truly content.

  • That book you read, enthralled in its narrative.
  • The walk you took, appreciating the beauty of nature.
  • The meal you cooked and savored, relishing each bite.

All these moments of joy occurred independently, right?

If you’re going to embrace solitude, it’s essential to acknowledge that your happiness is not tied to others.

You’re capable of creating joy independently.

That’s why it’s crucial to discard the misconception that your happiness is reliant on others.

It’s not.

Your actions and experiences are what foster happiness, and they are most profound when they occur independently. 

2) You’re comfortable with silence

Now, this might seem a bit odd to some.

Most people are advised to “fill the silence” or “keep the conversation going”. This is usually how social interactions are perceived in our society.

But, for those happy being alone, the concept is flipped on its head.


Because true contentment comes from appreciating the silence. It comes from observing your thoughts in the absence of noise.

And guess what?

When you try to “fill every moment with noise” all the time, you give too much power to external stimuli.

You give up your inherent peace.

Now, I give more value to silence. Sometimes I have reflective moments in silence. Other times I’m having creative thoughts in solitude.

In either case, I don’t run from this anymore and this, I have to admit, makes me feel satisfied.

3) You cherish your own company

Did you know that some psychologists believe spending time alone can improve your emotional well-being and even boost your creativity?

Yes, solitude isn’t just about escaping social interactions — it’s an opportunity to dive deep into your own thoughts and ideas.

I know this might initially seem less appealing to some.

But before long, you might find yourself truly enjoying your own company.

Even more — you might find yourself preferring solitude over the company of others.

And you know what?

Few individuals are strong enough to acknowledge that kind of preference. The thing is that loneliness often sneaks into our lives when we’re alone.

But what if you willingly embrace solitude and still find joy?

Then you are onto something special.

And let’s be real: That’s a kind of happiness that’s worth its weight in gold.

4) You find solace in solitude

Perhaps not surprisingly, our personal preferences and self-awareness also determine how we perceive solitude.


In my case, I often find myself engrossed in my own thoughts. Simply put, I become captivated by the journey of self-discovery. My intentions are straightforward. Solitude allows me to explore the depths of my consciousness.

But when I delve into solitude, I can sometimes drift away from social interactions. I might miss out on a few social gatherings.

That’s when I usually become introspective and might not seem too sociable.

If I judged myself for my intentions, I wouldn’t question my behavior. Instead, because I don’t focus solely on my intentions, I am more able to reflect on my actions and adapt my behavior.

I am learning to balance solitude with social interactions.

That’s why I’m sure about one thing:

Finding solace in solitude is what matters, not the intentions that lead you there.

5) You prioritize personal growth

Let’s get real for a moment:

Personal growth often happens in the quiet corners of our lives, away from the noise and opinions of others.

If you find yourself prioritizing personal development, reading books that challenge you, or setting aside time for activities that foster growth, then I’m sure about this:

You’re not just okay with being alone—you’re thriving in it.


Because I can’t count the times I’ve skipped social outings to work on a project or to simply reflect on my goals and aspirations.

It might sound intense, but personal growth is a never-ending journey, and sometimes that journey is best taken alone.

Don’t get me wrong, friends and family are important, but they can’t do the work for you.

If you find yourself setting boundaries to protect your time for self-improvement, it’s more than just a preference for solitude.

It’s a commitment to becoming the best version of yourself — even if that means spending less time socializing and more time focusing inward.

6) You enjoy introspection

This one is a more obvious reason why you enjoy being alone.

Introspection is like a mirror for your soul, right?

It allows you to examine your thoughts, feelings, and motivations from a distance.

To be honest, that’s something I’ve always cherished.

The thing is that I’ve found that some of my most profound realizations have come from these moments of quiet reflection.

Whether I’m pondering life’s big questions or simply evaluating my actions and decisions, introspection provides a sort of mental and emotional clarity that’s hard to find elsewhere.

And if you also find value in this kind of inner exploration, chances are you’re not just comfortable with being alone.

Instead, you find it incredibly enriching.

If you, too, enjoy these moments of introspection, savoring the clarity and understanding they bring, then you’re definitely more than happy being alone.

7) You value relationships

Let’s finish this article with a twist you might not have seen coming:

Valuing your relationships could actually be a strong indicator that you’re more than happy being alone.


Let me explain.

When you’re comfortable in your own skin and relish your alone time, you’re less likely to tolerate shallow or unfulfilling relationships just for the sake of avoiding loneliness.

You appreciate the depth and richness that comes with meaningful connections, and you’re not afraid to wait for relationships that offer that kind of substance.

I know from experience that being content with solitude has made me far more selective about who I let into my inner circle.

The best part?

By spending quality time alone, you also gain a clearer understanding of who you are, what you value, and what you can bring to a relationship.

This makes your interactions with others more authentic and rewarding.

The fine art of being your own best company

So,  you’re not just okay with being alone, you absolutely love it.

Trust me, these 9 signs are all indicators of a life richly lived on your own terms.

But what’s the next step? How do you make the most of this preference for solitude?

Here are some quick tips:

  • Keep a journal to capitalize on your introspective tendencies. It’s a fantastic tool for self-discovery.
  • Block out “me time” in your schedule. Don’t let it be an afterthought; make it a priority.
  • Continue to invest in relationships that matter. Being happy alone doesn’t mean you have to be a hermit.
  • Explore new hobbies or revisit old ones. This is your time to do what you love, free from judgment or interruption.

The final takeaway?

Loving your alone time isn’t something to be shy about—it’s a strength that can improve your mental health, boost your creativity, and enrich your life in countless ways.

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