12 life choices you don’t need to justify to anyone

by Brendan Brown | November 25, 2023, 11:34 pm

In a world that’s quick to judge and slow to understand, it’s easy to feel like you have to justify every decision you make. 

But here’s a radical thought: You don’t owe an explanation to anyone for your life choices. 

Let’s bust some societal myths and shed light on 12 choices you absolutely don’t need to justify to anyone. 

Grab a seat, my brave friend, it’s time for some serious empowerment talk.

1) Choosing not to have kids

Not everyone dreams of changing diapers or attending PTA meetings, and guess what? That’s perfectly okay. 

We live in a world that tends to glorify parenthood as the pinnacle of human experience, but it’s not for everyone. 

Whether you’ve got other priorities, you’re focused on your career, or maybe you just enjoy the freedom of not having to plan your life around school holidays—it’s your decision to make. 

You’re not any less caring, loving, or “normal.” You’re just living life on your terms

So the next time someone asks when you’re going to have kids, remind them that not all paths to fulfillment involve a stork.

2) Your relationship status

Are you single and loving it? Good for you. In a relationship and happy? Great! 

Are you somewhere in between? That’s perfectly fine too. 

Your relationship status is not an indicator of your worth, your happiness, or your success. 

Love is an incredible part of life, but it’s not the only part. There’s no “right” time or age to find love, and there’s certainly no need to rush it. 

After all, even cheese takes time to mature, and we all know how amazing that is. 

So, if you’re still looking for “the one,” or happily single, just do you. There’s no need to justify your love life (or lack thereof) to anyone.

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3) Your career path

You might have heard the phrase “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” 

But what if what you love isn’t what society expects? 

Whether you’re a successful lawyer who’d rather be a baker, a corporate honcho with dreams of starting an organic farm, or a circus performer juggling jobs (literally), keep this in mind:

Your career path should reflect your passions, not societal expectations. 

The satisfaction you derive from your work is far more important than the prestige or paycheck. 

The world needs all kinds of people, and if we all followed the same path, life would be terribly boring

Go ahead and pursue that dream. You don’t need to justify your career choices to anyone. 

They’re your dreams, not theirs.

4) Your body, your rules

Your body, your rules – it’s as simple as that. 

Whether you’re a tattoo enthusiast, an ardent fan of body piercings, or someone who feels comfortable in their own skin without any modifications, it’s your body and your choice. 

So, you’ve got a new tattoo? Good for you! Want to dye your hair purple? Fantastic! 

Your appearance and how you choose to express yourself don’t need approval from anyone else. 

Celebrate your individuality and remember, it’s your canvas to paint.

5) Your sexual orientation

Straight, gay, bi, pan, ace—whatever your sexual orientation, it’s nobody’s business but your own. 

We’re in the 21st century, and it’s high time we understand that love is love. It doesn’t need to be defined, categorized, or justified. 

No one has the right to tell you who you should love or be attracted to.

Love openly and freely, and never feel like you have to justify your sexuality to anyone.

6) Choosing solitude over socializing

Some people recharge by socializing, others by spending time alone—and both are equally valid. 

If you prefer a quiet night in with a good book over a noisy party, that’s totally fine. 

Society might label you as an introvert or even anti-social, but don’t let that get to you. 

You know what makes you feel good and helps you recharge, and that doesn’t need justification. 

Remember: Just because you enjoy your own company, doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy others’. 

You’re simply selective about your energy and time, and that’s a wise choice to make.

7) Deciding not to marry

Marriage isn’t for everyone. For some, it’s a sacred union, for others, it’s an unnecessary legal bind. 

Your perspective on it is yours alone. 

Whether you’ve chosen to live with your partner without a legal document, decided to remain single all your life, or you’re just not interested in tying the knot…

There’s no need to justify your choice. 

A relationship’s strength lies in mutual love, respect, and understanding, not a piece of paper.

8) Breaking tradition

Traditions can be beautiful, but they can also be limiting. If you feel a tradition is holding you back from living your life to the fullest, it’s okay to let it go. 

Want to have a career instead of taking over the family business? Go for it. Don’t want to participate in certain cultural rituals? That’s okay. 

Your life is about carving your own path, not following a predetermined one. 

Don’t let the weight of tradition hold you down if it doesn’t align with who you are.

9) Choosing to prioritize your mental health

In a world that glorifies being busy, taking a step back for your mental health can often be seen as a weakness. 

But there’s absolutely nothing weak about it. 

If you need to say ‘no’ to plans, take a mental health day off from work, or end a toxic relationship for the sake of your mental well-being, that’s not just okay, it’s necessary. 

Your mental health is just as important as your physical health, and it’s something you should never have to justify prioritizing. 

In fact, it’s one of the bravest things you can do. Be proud of it.

10) Following a non-traditional educational path

We live in a society that values traditional educational routes and prestigious degrees, but that doesn’t mean they are the only paths to knowledge or success. 

Maybe you’re more suited for a vocational course, or perhaps you’re an autodidact who prefers self-study. 

Or you might be someone who jumped into the workforce right after high school. 

Whatever your journey, it’s valuable, and it doesn’t require an explanation or defense. 

Education is about enriching your mind and preparing for your future, not ticking societal checkboxes.

11) Embracing minimalism

In a world that often equates success with material wealth, choosing to live a minimalist lifestyle can attract a few raised eyebrows. 

Whether you decide to declutter your home, choose experiences over possessions, or live a nomadic lifestyle, it’s your decision to make. 

There’s nothing wrong with seeking happiness outside the materialistic paradigm. 

It’s your life, and if simplicity brings you joy and peace, then that’s all that matters. No explanations necessary.

12) Taking a career break

We’re often conditioned to believe that our careers should be straight, ascending lines on a graph. 

But life isn’t a PowerPoint presentation. 

If you feel the need to take a break, whether it’s for traveling, learning a new skill, taking care of a loved one, or simply figuring things out, it’s a perfectly valid choice. 

Don’t let societal pressure to “keep climbing” make you dismiss the idea of a sabbatical. 

Life is more than work, and taking time for yourself is not a weakness—it’s self-care.

The art of paying no mind

Once upon a time, I found myself caught in a whirlwind of other people’s opinions. 

Every comment about my career choices felt like a direct attack on my abilities. Every off-hand remark about my lifestyle left me questioning my values. 

Before I knew it, I was spiraling into a state of constant self-doubt, my mental health was plummeting, and my relationships started to strain under the pressure.

At some point, I started to ask myself: “Whose life am I actually living?” 

I was living my life in the shadow of everyone else’s expectations. My goals were no longer my own; they were the goals society had decided for me. 

It was at this moment that I realized I needed to master the art of paying no mind.

Learning to sift through the influx of comments, to differentiate between constructive criticism and unsolicited advice, was no easy task.

It took me time to understand that not all opinions required my attention or reaction. 

This journey was not about creating a shield against all feedback but about developing a filter to separate the noise from the meaningful.

Today, I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I can discern advice that will help me grow from baseless commentary that only serves to stir up self-doubt. 

And, let me tell you, the peace that comes from not having to justify every single life choice to everyone you meet is priceless.

Final words

Ultimately, your life is a beautiful, unique journey that should be navigated based on your own compass, not someone else’s map. 

Take constructive criticism on board, sure, but don’t let unsolicited comments veer you off your chosen path. 

You’re the artist of your life’s canvas, and it’s up to you to decide which strokes define your masterpiece. 

That, my friends, is the empowering art of paying no mind.

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