10 non-obvious signs that someone is deeply in love with you

Love is a funny thing, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s loud and in your face, but other times it’s so subtle, you might miss it if you blink. 

Recently, a close female friend of mine got a confession from a guy friend — he’d been in love with her for ages. 

She was stunned, but honestly, I saw it coming from a mile away. The signs were there, just not in the way you’d expect. 

So, if you’re wondering whether someone might be harboring secret feelings for you, read on for these 10 non-obvious signs. 

Trust me, love may be closer than you think.

1) They remember small details

We all have that moment when someone remembers a tiny detail about us, and we’re left thinking, “Wow, they actually paid attention.” 

But when someone’s in love, this takes on a whole new level. 

Take my friend’s situation — her guy friend remembered not just her birthday or her favorite color, but smaller, more intricate things. 

Like the story behind her childhood nickname or how she likes her coffee when she’s stressed. 

It’s as if these small details get imprinted in their memory, a subconscious collection of pieces that form the person they love.

2) They include you in their future plans

Planning for the future is a big deal, and including someone in those plans? That’s even bigger. 

When someone is deeply in love, you’ll find that you’re not just a footnote but a main chapter in their future story. 

My friend noticed this when her guy friend would talk about trips he wanted to take “someday” or a business he dreamed of starting. 

Without explicitly saying it, he’d add, “You’d love the view from that mountain,” or “You’d be great at helping with this venture.” 

It was his way of saying, “I see a future, and you’re in it.”

Whether it’s a casual mention of going on a vacation next year or talking about long-term goals, if they see you in their future, it’s a good sign they’re committed to the relationship.

3) They make sacrifices for you

When someone truly loves you, they’re willing to give up something of their own to make you happy. It doesn’t have to be something monumental; even small sacrifices speak volumes. 

For instance, my friend’s guy friend hated romantic comedies but sat through one just because she wanted to see it. 

Or the time he had a guys’ night planned but changed it to be there for her when she had a bad day. 

The point isn’t that he gave up his own happiness, but that making her happy was a path to his own happiness. Sacrifice becomes less about loss and more about love.

4) They make an effort with your loved ones

When someone is deeply in love, they won’t just want to be a part of your life; they’ll want to be a part of the lives of those who matter to you. 

Thinking back, my friend realized that her male friend not only engaged in conversations with her family but also remembered her sister’s birthday and even helped her dad fix something around the house. 

He was investing time and effort to connect with her circle, showing that he cared about the people she cares about. 

This goes beyond basic politeness; it’s a genuine effort to knit lives together in meaningful ways.

5) They listen more than they speak

Now, some people may be an exception to this — but generally, when someone is truly in love, they become an exceptional listener. 

They aren’t just hearing you; they’re understanding you, cherishing your words as if they’re the most important thing at that moment. 

And in hindsight, my friend realized that whenever they talked, her male friend was genuinely engaged in the conversation. He would lean in, make eye contact, and ask thoughtful follow-up questions. 

He rarely dominated the conversation to talk about himself. Instead, he let her share her thoughts, dreams, and even her everyday ramblings. 

And she realized that this attentive listening wasn’t just a tactic; it was a sincere interest in getting to know her, to understand her better, and be a part of her world in every possible way.

6) They give you their undivided attention

In a world where we are perpetually multitasking, juggling a dozen conversations and commitments at once, giving someone your undivided attention is one of the purest forms of love. 

And that’s why it hit me like a ton of bricks when my friend’s buddy would put down his phone whenever they were together. There were no glances at incoming texts or social media notifications. 

He was fully present, as if she was the focal point of his universe at that moment. 

This sense of presence was even noticeable in crowded places. Whether they were in a room full of people or just the two of them, it was still as if she was the only person that mattered. 

And in those instances, it was crystal clear: his undivided attention was a silent proclamation of his deep love for her.

7) There are hints they find you attractive

When someone is deeply in love with you, they don’t just find your appearance attractive, but they also appreciate the essence of who you are. 

And they might try to hide it, but it always shows one way or another.

Here and there, I would hear this guy giving my friend little compliments that were more than just superficial. 

It was as if he saw right into her essence, and her beauty emanated from her inside out to him. 

He never pushed himself on her, but it was clear he craved being close to her, and that he was comfortable with physical contact. 

These weren’t just flirty or playful actions; they were hints laden with affection and a deeper attraction.

8) They check in on you

When someone’s deeply in love, your well-being becomes one of their top priorities. 

My friend’s male confidant wasn’t just asking her about her day to make small talk; he genuinely cared about how she felt, what was bothering her, or what made her happy. 

And it wasn’t just during convenient hours; he’d check in even when they hadn’t talked in a while. 

Whether it was a simple text to ask if she’d gotten home safe or a call to see how she was feeling when she was unwell, he made it a point to show that her safety and happiness mattered to him. 

This kind of consistent, genuine concern is a non-obvious sign that speaks volumes about how much someone is in love with you.

9) They notice changes in you

My friend used to be surprised by how her male friend would notice even the subtlest changes in her, whether it was a new hairstyle or a slight change in her mood. 

It was as if he had an intuitive sense of what was going on with her. For example, when she once seemed a bit off, he was the first to ask if everything was okay. 

And he didn’t just leave it at that; he offered a listening ear and emotional support. 

Noticing these little changes isn’t about keeping tabs or being obsessive; it’s about deeply caring for someone to the point where you’re attuned to their various states and needs. 

It’s a sign that may not be obvious to everyone but speaks volumes about the depth of someone’s love.

10) They act differently around you

The most important sign to consider, one that provides context for all the others, is how this person acts around you compared to others. 

This is why I wasn’t at all surprised when my friend’s friend finally told her he was in love with her.

He was kind and nice to everyone, but he always seemed to go the extra mile for her. His smile would be brighter, he’d always gravitate towards her at events, and he’d do things for her he didn’t normally do.

Remember, what may be a sign of deep affection for one person might just be someone else’s normal behavior. That’s why this sign is so crucial; it helps you understand the uniqueness of their love specifically for you. 

If you see a marked difference in how they treat you compared to everyone else, combined with other signs mentioned above, chances are they’re deeply in love with you.

The unspoken language of love

In the end, love isn’t just about grand gestures or poetic confessions. It’s often the subtle, consistent behaviors that speak the loudest. 

If you’ve noticed several of these signs, especially how someone acts differently around you, it’s quite possible that person is deeply in love with you.

Love is a complex emotion, but it has a way of revealing itself in the simplest actions. 

So pay attention to those little things; they’re your heart’s way of telling you something big.