Ever wonder what separates those who crumble under pressure from those who seem to thrive no matter what life throws at them? I've been fascinated by this question for years, especially after surviving three corporate restructures that left many of my colleagues devastated while others emerged stronger. The difference ...Read More
We often think of manipulation as something obvious: Raised voices, slamming doors, and big dramatic scenes. In my counseling room, what I see most often is far quieter. It is a partner, parent, friend or boss who calmly says a few simple sentences that leave you wondering if you are ...Read More
I walked into the community center last Tuesday to drop off some donated books, and I noticed two men sitting in the lobby. Both looked to be around my age, maybe a bit younger. One was chatting with the receptionist, laughing about something, asking about her kids. The other ...Read More
You know what's exhausting? Pretending to love things everyone expects you to love. After spending my entire career in the insurance business, I thought retirement would mean freedom to do what I actually enjoyed. Instead, I found myself swept up in what I now call "mandatory fun"—that peculiar pressure ...Read More
If you grew up in the 70s, you’ll probably remember that grown-ups had a whole set of stock phrases they pulled out whenever a child stepped out of line, showed a bit of emotion, or simply asked “why.” Back then, most of our parents didn’t have parenting books, podcasts, ...Read More
You know that brilliant friend who can solve complex problems in their head but can't seem to finish a simple project? Or the coworker with multiple degrees who consistently misses deadlines? Intelligence is valuable, no question. But I've noticed something curious over the years, both in my counseling practice ...Read More