6 phrases authentic people never use in a conversation

by Isabel Cabrera | April 21, 2024, 4:44 pm

Do we live in a simulation?

Some very smart people believe that we do.

But you don’t have to subscribe to that theory to notice that we live in a very fake world.

Robots argue online. Social media influences share heavily-doctored photos to create a fake reality. Artificial Intelligence writes news stories.

No wonder that as the world gets more fake, the value of an authentic person only increases.

Authentic people are genuine. They are true to themselves. They are unapologetically who they are.

And there are some sure signs you’re talking to an authentic person by the words they say – and the words they don’t.

Let’s take a look at some phrases authentic people never use in conversation. 

If you meet someone who refuses to talk like this, it’s a good sign you’re dealing with a truly authentic person.

1) Is that ok?

Let’s be clear:

Authentic people have no problem asking for permission when it’s required. If an authentic person is going to do something that affects you, you may well hear them say this phrase first.

But what authentic people don’t do is ask permission to live their lives the way they want.

As long as they are not hurting anybody else, they live how they want. And they don’t ask permission from anyone else for that.

As if that’s not enough, authentic people also don’t let fear control their decisions. They live their authentic lives in the way that suits their values and principles, and they don’t need anybody else’s permission or blessing to do it.

That’s part of what makes authentic people such attractive personalities to be around. And staying authentic requires that they live life on their own terms.

Authentic people also usually have few regrets. Because they have always lived life on their own terms, they don’t feel a need to go back over the past and criticize themselves harshly.

That doesn’t mean an authentic person won’t apologize if they have genuinely done something wrong. They will.

But they won’t apologize for things that aren’t their fault. And they won’t ask permission to live their lives exactly the way they want to.

2) Here’s what you should do

Again, we need to make a distinction here.

Authentic people may offer you advice – especially if you ask for it. And if they do, you should probably pay attention, since people who are true to themselves often have smart opinions.

But what they won’t do is tell you how to live.

Authentic people hate being told by others how to live their lives. That makes them very reluctant to do the same to the people around them.

Live and let live is the mantra of an authentic person, and they practice this daily in their own lives.

Authentic people don’t tell others what to do, and they appreciate not being told what to do themselves.

That doesn’t mean they don’t listen to what others have to say. Often, a person who is living out their own truth will be open to advice from other people. But they will take it as advice, not an order.

And you’ll get much further in your dealings with an authentic person if you make suggestions rather than telling them what to do.

3) I couldn’t do that

Real people believe in themselves.

But that’s just one side of the story.

People who are true to themselves aren’t arrogant. They don’t brag or boast in an attempt to impress other people. Instead of talking about their achievements, they just get on with doing it.

Because they don’t worry too much about other people’s opinions, authentic people often have a very strong sense of self. That means they will try new things, and experience both failure and success.

Turns out, that’s the perfect way to get a realistic understanding of your strengths and weaknesses.

Authentic people don’t limit themselves. You’ll never hear them say they couldn’t do something, because they know that they can achieve almost anything they set their mind to.

And because authentic people don’t need praise from others to validate them, they also don’t use false modesty to fish for praise from those around them.

But that’s not all…

4) You can’t do that

Just as authentic people don’t limit themselves with negative beliefs, they don’t limit others, either.

People who are true to themselves know that life is full of surprises. 

And people are even more so. Authentic personalities know from experience that almost anything is possible for those willing to attempt it.

As if that’s not enough, authentic people also avoid telling other people what they can and can’t do. That’s because they hate it when other people do that to them.

Simply put, authentic people are often very supportive of the efforts of others to improve themselves. And even if they are not, they certainly won’t stand in the way.

You can rely on a real person to let you pursue your goals without trying to tell you to do something else.

5) This isn’t fair!

Life isn’t fair.

That’s a sad truth we all have to realize sooner or later.

But some people with negative personalities don’t ever seem to get past this realization.

People who are real with themselves don’t complain. They accept that life may not always give them exactly what they want. 

Instead of whining about it, they get on with pursuing their goals and building the best life that they can.

Think about it: if you’re living an authentic life based on your own values, preferences, and goals, you really have nothing to complain about.

And if you’re not living that kind of life, you have no one to blame but yourself.

Which is why you’ll also never hear an authentic person say…

6) It’s their fault

Real people don’t point fingers.

Being authentic means being true to yourself. That means accepting responsibility for when things don’t go your way.

It also means accepting the things you can’t change. Instead of looking for someone to blame, an authentic person will look for ways to improve their situation.

Best of all, authentic people understand their flaws, so they generally accept the flaws of others. If someone does make mistake, an authentic person won’t try to throw them under the bus. Instead, they focus on solutions, not blame.

Being an authentic person

Being around a truly authentic person can be inspiring.

These are people who are honest about themselves and don’t fake feelings they don’t have or success they haven’t achieved. That means you always know where you stand.

In a world that seems to be getting more fake all the time, authentic people are needed more than ever.

If you want to be a more authentic person, cut these phrases out of your vocabulary.

Related: 13 questions you should never ask someone (because it’s not really your business)

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