Have you ever met someone that made you wonder if you’ve known them 20 seconds, or 20 years, as Taylor Swift would put it?

We’re talking about those seemingly magical moments where you just get someone—and they get you, too—so effortlessly. 

As if you don’t have to ask to have your needs met, and you don’t have to explain to be understood.

Is there a science behind it? Or are you afraid it’s a mere delusion?

If you want to know, read more below as we explore the 9 signs that show you might have a deep connection with someone, even if you barely know them. 

Let’s dive in, shall we?

1) They feel familiar

Meeting this person feels like coming home, even if you’ve never met them before. 

You’re not scared to be who you are around them, nor do you feel the need to impress them.

You’re just you—and you find that nothing feels better than that. 

It really is like being home, because you’re more comfortable around them than with anyone else.

2) You feel comfortable around them

There are a lot of judgmental people around us. 

Sometimes, even we ourselves are unconsciously judgmental of others.

That’s what makes it so hard to find a place—to find people—that you’re comfortable being with.

And with them, even if you’ve just met, you feel like you can be yourself without fear or shame.

You’re not afraid to share your darkest secrets, your bitter past, or your greatest fears because you knows they will listen without judgment—and they will understand.

3) They make you feel understood

You know you have a deep connection with someone when you don’t need to explain yourself to them.

They understand your thoughts and emotions so easily, it’s almost intuitive, right?

It’s like you don’t feel the need to decode or translate your thoughts before sharing them because they simply understand.

If someone makes you feel that way, that’s a very obvious sign that you have a deep connection with them, even if you barely know them.

In fact, it’s this deep understanding that makes everything feel easier when you’re with them.

4) Everything feels easier with them

As people, we tend to make everything more complicated than they actually are.

Life would be so much easier if we took things as they are, but that’s quite impossible, don’t you think?

Well, not quite, because when you have a deep connection with someone—even if you barely know them—everything feels easier. 

When you’re with them, it’s easier to decide what to do when you’re free, what to have for dinner, where to go when you feel like exploring…

And what’s more is that you don’t even have to do the mental gymnastics of having to decide when you’re considering other people’s opinions, too!

They just have a way of making you feel like life is so easy; and perhaps part of it is because you have a lot in common.

5) You have a lot in common, sometimes even unexpectedly

You know that feeling when you can’t find the right word to say and someone somehow manages to find it? 

It’s like everything suddenly makes sense, and you feel a sense of relief because it means you don’t have to keep thinking hard anymore—no more brain cells to burn, if you may!

That’s how it is when you share a deep connection with someone.

Regardless of how long you’ve known each other, you constantly discover shared interests, values, and experiences, and sometimes in the most unexpected ways. 

It’s cheesy, but it’s almost like all the universe conspired to bring you this person, and you really can’t be more thankful to finally find a missing piece of yourself that you’ve been looking for your whole life.

6) You’ve both had similar experiences

Life has dealt you both similar cards at times. 

Maybe you have a similar family history. Something eventful that changed both of your lives forever. Struggles that may be different, but taught you both the same lessons.

It’s these similar experiences that could explain the deep connection, even if you barely know each other.

It makes you understand each other better and easier than other people do, because no one in your life has ever went through the same thing—except for each other.

7) You see parts of yourself in them

They say it’s narcissistic to try to find a person who’s just like you, but is it, really?

Most of the time, we’re not really looking for an exact replica of us—we’re simply looking to be understood.

And meeting someone whom we see parts of us in makes us feel a sense of relief, because that means we don’t have to keep looking for that sense of understanding anymore.

That’s why you feel a deep connection with someone you barely know—because you’ve been looking for them your whole life, and they understand you like no one else can.

Likewise, they can anticipate what you need and how you feel without even asking.

8) They can anticipate your needs and emotions

It’s hard to find people who can easily anticipate our needs even when we don’t ask.

That’s why I fall a little more in love with my friends when they give me something I need without me having to ask.

And if you feel the same about a person you’ve just met, that’s a sign that you have a deep connection with them, even if you barely know each other.

It’s almost like a sixth sense—and nothing feels better than knowing someone in your life understands what you need without you having to ask for it.

9) They make you love yourself a little more

The most important—and perhaps the most obvious—sign that you have a deep connection with someone you barely know is if they make you love yourself a little more every time you’re with them.

You feel beautiful when you’re around them, even if you don’t try.

Your special interests aren’t weird, because they find them interesting.

You don’t see your flaws as imperfections, because they make you feel special in all the things that make you different. 

And even if you’ve just met, the connection will surely last a lifetime if they help you love yourself a little more every day. 

Final thoughts

Connecting deeply with a person you barely know really shows that our connections with others transcend time and familiarity. 

They make us feel a deep sense of belongingness, a kind of comfort that makes us feel at home wherever as long as we’re with them. 

It’s these connections that make life meaningful, which surely makes it worth living.