10 signs your partner is more in love with you than you realize

Love can be expressed in so many different ways. In fact, there are 5 languages dedicated to identifying them.

But when we are preoccupied with the obvious, we can overlook some of the ways a person loves us beyond space and time.

Here are 10 signs your partner is more in love with you than you realize.

1) They know who they are

To begin, we need to set the tone regarding how a person could possibly love you beyond their senses.

And the truth is that a person is only able to meet you as deeply as they have met themselves. 

Which means the person who loves at their own expense, or loves you instead of themselves isn’t as impressive as you’d think.

If your partner takes care of themselves, regularly communicates their needs as well, and values their own growth, the flag doesn’t get any greener than that.

Sure, we all have different ways of expressing ourselves so going the extra mile for someone you love isn’t inherently problematic.

But it’s all about creating sustainability and stability in your relationship by knowing your limits. 

It’s the only way you can consistently be there for the other in the long run – because that’s what we’re here for, right?

2) They are consistently empathetic

A huge sign that your partner is emotionally intelligent is if they are able to be consistent in the way they support you.

When you are with someone that cherishes your humanity, you’ll never feel afraid to be honest with them because they offer you a safe space to be vulnerable.

It demonstrates their ability to perceive you as your own person – rather than an extension of themselves. 

That means they won’t use your insecurities, past, or weaknesses against you.

A relationship that is fuelled by empathy is also one that will encourage slow and steady growth through compassion. Instead of demanding change through criticism.

Which is partially why you might not always notice this type of love. So next time you and your partner show each other patience, bask in it. 

There’s no need to rush when you’re both already a part of each other’s future.

3) You’re a part of their future

A high-value person will have goals and aspirations. So if they include you in their plans, that’s a huge sign that they are in love with you.

Your partner might verbally express things they want to do with you in the future. 

But it could also be evident in the way that they strive to be better so that they can be more stable for the both of you. 

Another subtle way a person secures their future with you is by protecting the relationship from unnecessary drama.

They’ll defend your name behind your back, and avoid seemingly little things that could lead to misunderstandings between the 2 of you.

It’s the bare minimum but if your partner has never given you a reason to doubt their loyalty and reassures you regularly, your relationship has the foundations for success.

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4) They introduce you to the important people in their life

The people we love all hold different keys to our hearts.

So if your partner introduces you to the important people in their life, that’s a huge sign that they trust you.

To not only treat them with respect, but they also trust you with all the different versions of themselves that live within the people that they love.

It would be easy to keep life compartmentalized because that means there won’t be any difficult entanglements you’d have to deal with if the relationship ever ended.

It’s a risk that involves overcoming your fear of the unknown – and what is love if not the thing that makes us fearless?

5) You live inside their head rent-free

Nothing says “I love you” more than giving someone a place in the back of your mind.

This is where the obvious and obscure blend together where your partner might express their love through random displays of affection.

Or they remember all your favorite foods, pet peeves, and et cetera!

And because they’re not pouring from an empty cup, it’s nothing that either one of you feels guilty or exhausted for.

It’s also an interesting phenomenon when an emotionally intelligent person loves you and isn’t afraid to share their peace of mind with you.

Because it means they see you as an equal – a sentiment that is shared and intuitively felt between the 2 of you.

6) They seem to know exactly what to say

And vice versa! Being a permanent resident of each other’s soft spots allows you both to know what the other person needs.

Call it a psychic connection, or maybe it’s just what happens when you don’t try to hide from another person.

These days there are so many infographics on what a healthy relationship looks like. Which is great!

But love isn’t a checklist, it’s a reflection of how 2 souls connect. So I’d say it’s important to acknowledge the intangible aspects as much as the tangible.

The both of you have probably felt it, and it’s time for you to acknowledge it. And realize that you’re both more in love with each other than you thought.

7) They encourage your independence

When someone isn’t afraid to share their life with you but still wants you to be your own person, that means they’re loving you from a selfless place.

That their love isn’t to have power over you! 

Or convince you of anything except that you are deserving of everything good that the world has to offer.

In a society that confuses codependency and possessiveness as love, this kind of healthy love will look and feel different.

It will be expansive where your relationship doesn’t revolve around making sure the other person feels needed.

Because that part will come naturally between 2 people that understand each other beyond what they can do for the other.

Instead, there will be a lot of growth from the way you keep each other accountable and celebrate each other’s successes.

8) They notice your growth

When the right people get together, they become stronger together and individually.

So another subtle sign your partner loves you is if they are able to be an extra pair of eyes for your blindspots.

And it works the other way around! They’ll be able to see all the ways you’ve grown that you might not notice yourself.

Of course, it helps if you’re both optimistic people with growth mindsets that deeply understand each other’s goals.

But sometimes, love just makes us believe in another person’s ability to succeed, and there’s no logical explanation as to why.

In fact, I think it’s better to not explain everything.

9) They’ve changed for the better since you’ve met them

I don’t mean that you’ve fixed them, or that they lacked something before they were with you.

But I mean it in a sense where the presence of love can be healing as it opens our eyes to all the false narratives we tell ourselves.

So many people will look for a partner that can save them.

They’ll define love as something that can bring them material wealth, or emotional well-being. As if being a part of a power couple isn’t to stroke their egos.

Sure, all those things can be byproducts of a healthy relationship. But those aren’t the foundations of love. 

Love is something that will undo your ego and make you want to become a better person. Not just for the sake of the relationship, but also for yourself and the planet.

That means in this context, the changes you perceive in your partner will be in their energy. 

You could say that they seem healthier, stronger and happier. However as the theme persists, it’s just something that you feel.

10) You’ve changed for the better since you’ve met them

How long has it been since you’ve taken a good look at yourself?

Sometimes, your partner’s love for you will be evident in the way you’ve become a better person for yourself.

We are all so used to ourselves, these changes can fly right over your head. And despite it being something that can’t be articulated, I can try!

It will almost feel like your hope in humanity was restored because you never knew you could feel that way towards someone.

It inspired you to question all your other self-limiting beliefs – which can have life-changing effects.

And all it took was another person’s presence, making you realize that you might be more in love with someone than you realized.

We don’t always notice how deeply someone loves us until we reflect on how they’ve impacted us.

And also how much our love has impacted them.

Which takes time and effort! So it makes sense that real love tends to creep up on us.

Otherwise, you might fall into the trap of seeing something that’s not there.

Remember that the best kind of love is one that’s mutual and is better than your imagination.

Let it creep up on you.