9 signs you’re in a relationship with a genuinely good person

by Brendan Brown | May 2, 2024, 10:11 pm

Genuinely good people make you feel seen, heard, and valued. They’re warm and provide support when you need it the most. 

They’re relationship heroes and deserve every recognition! 

So, how can you tell if you’re lucky enough to be in a relationship with a genuinely good person? 

You’re about to find out as here are 9 signs that prove your partner is a genuinely good person.

1) They’re compassionate beyond words

A genuinely good person cares about your feelings like they care about their own.

They’re interested in your experiences and express genuine compassion for your struggles.

They show kindness in every situation they can because that’s just how they interact. And not only with you but with other people too. 

For example, if your partner notices homeless people sitting on the sidewalk, instead of walking past without acknowledging them, they actually stop and ask if they’re okay. 

If they don’t judge and look away in that moment and instead treat them with dignity and respect, then you are one lucky person. 

They make a positive impact on the lives of all people they touch. 

2) They communicate respectfully

Good communication is a crucial aspect of every relationship

A genuinely good person is mature enough to know that in order to make things work with you, they’re going to have to be an effective and respectful communicator. 

In an effort to have an honest talk, they listen when you speak and value your feelings and your perspective. They answer and share their thoughts respectfully.   

A truly good person respects your ideas even when they disagree with them. They don’t dismiss or criticize you for it. They try to understand and acknowledge the effort.

This type of respectful communication is a breeding ground for a warm and open atmosphere in your relationship. 

3) They go the extra mile

Does your partner go the extra mile to surprise you with thoughtful gestures? Do they care about you and want to show that they’re thinking of your happiness?

A genuinely good partner goes the extra mile and understands that your happiness includes the happiness of people around you and your family. 

If you’re lucky enough to have your grandparents alive, then you know how wonderful and deep that relationship is.  

If your partner knows your grandparents love when you visit them, they’ll try to visit them even more often with you. But your partner will also go the extra mile. 

They won’t watch how the grandparents struggle with daily tasks. They’ll notice their overgrown garden, gather some tools, and spend time clearing and tidying it up. 

This act of kindness shows how going the extra mile has a really meaningful impact on people’s lives, even when it’s something straightforward like that.

This brings us to the following sign. 

4) They compromise

In many relationships, partners have many differences

A genuinely good person is willing to find common ground and make compromises to ensure both parties feel heard and valued. They prioritize harmony over winning.

But what if you’re dealing with someone who won’t compromise? It’s far too easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love. 

I want to suggest doing something different. 

It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê.

As Rudá explains in this mind blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way because we’re not taught how to love ourselves first. 

So, if you want to solve any problems in your relationship or marriage, I’d recommend starting with yourself first and taking Rudá’s incredible advice. 

Here’s a link to the free video once again

5) They’re honest even when it’s difficult

Honesty in a relationship leads to deeper trust, understanding, and growth between partners. 

A genuinely good person is honest and transparent, even when faced with difficult situations.

They don’t hide their intentions or feelings because they know how important open communication is and that hiding things from their partner will never cultivate a healthy relationship

For example, if their situation at work and the mistakes they’ve made have some consequences for their career, they’ll share this with you. 

They probably feel they might disappoint you, or worry you, but they know honesty is the key. 

So they explain the situation, detailing the mistakes, their regrets, and their intention to take responsibility and fix the problem

By being honest about the mistake, you and your partner can face any challenges as a team, and you’ll become even more connected. 

6) They make time for you

In today’s world, everyone is busy. But this fact shouldn’t be used as an excuse to neglect people around you. 

Genuine people know that, and they don’t use this as an excuse to neglect the relationships with their loved ones, including you, of course. 

They make an effort to spend time with people close to them, showing how much they value them.

A genuine partner is generous with their time, attention, and efforts to make your life better. There isn’t that feeling where you find yourself begging for attention.

A lot of us don’t spend nearly enough time with our partners. 

Phones often preoccupy our time, and evenings start to become the same: Two people sitting in their own corners of the couch so that it feels like they’re in separate rooms. 

If that’s you, know that this can be changed. 

Even a simple gesture of putting your phone down and turning it off can encourage your partner to do the same, and soon enough, you spend the evening together, making time for each other.

Watching favorite movies, reading together, and working on a mutual hobby are great ways to spend time together. 

But actually together. 

7) They support your individual growth

A good partner encourages you to dream bigger and accomplish those dreams. They celebrate your success and don’t feel inferior. 

When something great happens to you, they’re as excited as you are. They’re your number one cheerleader. 

My wife loves drawing and painting. But, she often neglects her amazing talent, which many people would kill for, and she knows it. 

She feels scared that she isn’t good enough and people won’t value her work. But I absolutely adore her art, and I think she’s great. 

I encourage her to paint more, even simple things, and fill smaller canvases with her art, and you know what? She does it. 

I give her my support, show her work to everyone, and share their excitement with her so she can see the work is really great. 

One day, my support paid off. In more ways than one, actually: 

She painted almost 20 beautiful art pieces in two months and then sold most of them in an art exhibition she held with her friend. 

How great is that? My point is that a good person is there for their partner. They’re supportive, help them with their growth, and learn with them. 

8) They practice patience and respect your boundaries

Patience is an important life skill. It allows you to accept challenges but also enjoy life more. 

Patient people also have a greater sense of gratitude, knowing that if you do things slowly but intelligently, it will pay off. 

A genuinely good partner doesn’t rush your feelings or your actions. 

They give you time and space, and they mean it. They respect your boundaries and won’t pressure you into doing things you’re uncomfortable with.

We all know that saying, “Great things come to those who wait…” And it really is like that, especially in relationships.  

Their patience tells you they care about you enough to wait, especially when it’s difficult and you face challenges. 

Sometimes, you simply need more time to process and work things out.

Instead of jumping on the “fighting wagon,” a genuinely good person patiently waits. A composed head is better than a hot head.   

This brings me to the next sign.

9) They apologize and forgive 

We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. Taking responsibility for our actions is never easy, but it must be done to do things right. 

Genuinely good people don’t apologize just for the sake of it. They actually mean it. 

If your partner sincerely apologizes when they’re wrong, and they’re also capable of forgiving and moving forward when you or others make mistakes, then they’re a genuinely good person. 

Final thoughts

If your partner is showing many of these traits, that’s a great sign you have a partner who is a genuinely good person. 

This article is not only about recognizing if your partner is a genuinely good person but also showing you how to cultivate this within yourself. 

It takes effort and a few uncomfortable truths, but it pays off. 

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