12 special personality traits of people who are truly self-confident

by Isabel Cabrera | February 22, 2024, 7:35 pm

I used to be so insecure that I didn’t even know I was insecure.

It was scary to even visualize myself as a confident person because that meant making all the parts of myself I was ashamed of be known.

So when I became confident, I wasn’t trying to become confident. 

I was actually just trying to have more peace in my life.

But what ended up happening is that it created room for confidence to shine through.

I changed internally – and not only that I had so much more clarity to perceive myself accurately.

Along with peace, these were the 12 special personality traits I developed as I became truly self-confident.

1) Patience

Self-confidence isn’t something that just happens overnight.

It’s defined as having faith in one’s abilities and qualities. That takes time to explore and create a strong awareness around.

Patience is also something that comes with trials and tribulations. 

When you’ve seen yourself survive through the ups and downs of life, it’s hard not to feel proud of yourself.

Not only that, you’ll likely see yourself differently because you had to disprove your own limitations by continuously moving forward.

And with that being said, a part of being patient is also about staying open to new possibilities!

2) Open-mindedness

Think of it as believing in your ability to learn new abilities

As well as having enough room within you to hold space for other perspectives to exist.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, I believe that closed-mindedness is caused by one’s insecurities. A need to be right being a fear of being wrong.

But when your sense of self-worth doesn’t require you to be perfect, being wrong is just an opportunity to learn something new.

How are you supposed to make up your own mind if you want to get it right the first time every time?

You can’t!

3) Non-conforming

Generally speaking, our society is built upon so many false dichotomies. 

You could even say that there’s not enough room for people to be open-minded if they want to feel a sense of belonging. 

That open-mindedness is something that one has to seek in order to master. And being comfortable alone is the first step.

The idea of “fitting in” is also an illusion that a lot of people buy into!

Because it works by premature self-rejection that creates a fear of the self. So people will seek social groups that coincide with this fear.

Even if no one has rejected them yet, and even if it’s just leading them down an imaginary rabbit hole.

4) Creative

Creativity and confidence go hand in hand because it requires you to be comfortable with not fitting in.

Which allows you to think freely and be innovative in whatever you do!

It’s also about knowing how to flip fear on its head by thinking outside the box which definitely helps with maintaining a healthy self-esteem.

When you mix creativity and confidence together, it naturally creates talent! Both in a technical sense and an ability to execute original ideas. 

With consistent practice, you can also apply the way you create to other aspects of your life. 

I like to think of this as freeing yourself from excessive self-analysis.

And making room for your heart and mind to coexist peacefully.

5) Emotionally intelligent

Some situations require more heart than others, while some would benefit from you being more cutthroat. 

In other words, they are balanced in their emotional and logical sides.

And I believe that being emotionally intelligent is knowing the difference, which comes with enduring many different experiences.

I’d even go as far as to say that thinking of your life lessons this way can help you simplify what you’re meant to learn in that moment.

This sense of balance is also demonstrated by a person’s ability to be compassionately empathetic.

Offering emotional support along with practical ways to overcome challenges to show others that things can indeed get better.

6) Excellent communicator

Which is easier when there isn’t an annoying voice in your head telling you what you should, would and could be doing.

Being a good communicator isn’t just about being honest. It’s also about knowing how to speak in a way that leaves room for understanding.

For example, not speaking from a place of fear or biases that may perpetuate harmful stereotypes.

Or knowing how to set the record straight without attacking someone else’s character.

And even knowing how to pick and choose battles based on the other person’s willingness to understand!

Being an excellent communicator also makes them a fun person to talk to, as well as gives them the ability to connect with people on a deeper level.

Also known as, the best person to go for advice.

7) Insightful

When you view the world as a sea of opportunities, there’s no shortage of things to learn. 

So confident people are often lifelong students, making them great teachers.

So people may gravitate toward them because they are able to offer a sense of guidance in a way that is easily digestible.

And their advice will never require you to act as they did because they understand that the answers came from seeking them.

Therefore they make people think and inspire them to approach life with a little more inquisitiveness.

Sometimes without trying to.

8) Cavalier in the best way

When you’re not focused on proving yourself to others, how they act towards you becomes irrelevant.

But I’d say that not taking things personally actually comes from how they’re able to immerse themselves in their own life.

In other words, they practice the art of minding your own business.

This specifically helped me become more confident in my own life because I learned how to separate myself from other people’s responsibilities.

It became clear to me that sometimes when a person treats you a certain way, it’s because that’s how they think they have to be if they want to be accepted.

Just as I thought I had to bend over backwards to be accepted.

You’d be surprised by how less of a failure you feel once you grasp this – and how drama-free your life becomes.

9) Structured and disciplined

Insecurities are so draining.

One of the biggest things I’ve noticed was how much more energy I had once I identified them. And how much I started to crave stability!

It was a feeling comparable to how your taste in men can change once you decide you want to be in a healthy relationship.

Your intuition also becomes crystal clear, helping you to be led to what’s good for you!

Listening to this inner guidance helped me figure out what kind of a routine suited me, as well as what helps me feel grounded.

With consistency, you can further strengthen your trust in yourself, making discipline a natural byproduct of it all.

10) Fearless

When you’ve mastered discipline, the risks you take become of a whole different caliber.

You could say they are calculated risks. 

But maybe calling them risks taken with night vision goggles on would be a better description.

Taking chances is a part of change, and a form of accepting them as something good – even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

Risks also get a bad rep! 

They’re often thought of as things that could go either way. But I think to be confident is to know that wherever you end up, it’ll be worthwhile.

It’s having faith in who you are, what you’re capable of and everything else in between.

11) Grateful

There’s always something to feel grateful for. 

And gratitude that is intentional will help guide a person through their loss by reminding them of their priorities and values.

Otherwise, you’ll find yourself trying to use optimism as a band-aid solution to satisfy the ego in an unproductive way.

This distinction is why certain losses aren’t so detrimental in the eyes of a self-confident person.

Because they have faith that things will always turn out. And even if they don’t, they will, it’s just the how that’s yet to be revealed.

And when you practice radical acceptance, there’s less of a desire to control everything. 

Including your reputation, how you think your life should go, and what you think you need to feel important.

12) Humble

So many people derive their confidence from their material possessions, relationships, career, and appearances.

When you don’t attach yourself to these things, you will find beauty in the simpler things.

For confident people, these kinds of attachments are suffocating in excess because it limits them from exploring who they are.

And filling your mind with who you can’t be or what you can’t do can get in the way of how you connect with others. 

Creating false hierarchies and leaving no room for authenticity – just a whole lot of arrogance disguised as self-love.

Start by confronting all the reasons why you don’t feel you deserve peace.

That’s where all the fears are. 

You have to identify these first to break the illusion because to wholly believe that you deserve to be self-confident, is to be self aware.

It’s a right that you discover as you identify all the ways you’ve sold yourself short. 

Even to yourself.

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