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Nobody tells you that the absence of close friends in midlife is often the residue of a small private decision you made somewhere in your thirties. The decision was not, in most cases, the decision to end the friendships. The decision was something quieter and more structurally consequential. ...Read More

There's a particular kind of person you've probably encountered. It's their birthday, and they have to be reminded. They don't make a deal of it. They don't post anything. If a colleague brings cake, they're polite, but they didn't ask for it and they don't seem to need it. ...Read More

There's a feeling most travelers recognize: you arrive somewhere and, faster than makes any rational sense, it feels like home. The streets feel familiar before you've learned them. The rhythm of the place suits you in a way you can't explain. You find yourself breathing differently. What we don't ...Read More

For a long time, I was fine. That was the answer I gave, and I thought I meant it. I was meeting deadlines. Going for walks. Having conversations that looked, from the outside, like a person who was doing reasonably well. Nothing was technically wrong. So I kept concluding: ...Read More