He asks me again where I flew in from. I tell him Singapore. He nods like it's the first time he's heard it, then asks the same question a different way fifteen minutes later: when did I get here, how long am I staying. I answer it again. For ...Read More
We tend to think about longevity in terms of the obvious inputs — diet, exercise, sleep, stress management, and whether we see a doctor often enough. As far as I can see, these all get a lot of airtime, and while I'm not saying they don't hold value ...Read More
Everyone has one of these friends. The person who texts first when your week falls apart. Who remembers your dad's surgery date better than you do. Who appears in your inbox with a thoughtful check-in the morning after you mentioned something hard in passing two weeks ago. They ...Read More
Researchers who study aging and life satisfaction have noticed something striking when they interview people who found a deep sense of purpose in their seventies and eighties. The story almost never starts with a plan. It rarely starts with a bucket list, a reinvention, a new project they finally ...Read More
The loneliest people at work are rarely the ones eating lunch alone. They are, more often, the ones who never eat lunch alone, who get tagged in the group photo, who are texted about the offsite, who are described by colleagues as great to have on the team. ...Read More
Psychology does not say that every cheerful person is secretly lonely. But it does give us a useful way to understand one particular pattern: some people become so practiced at keeping the emotional weather light that their happiness starts to function less like a mood and more like ...Read More