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There is a particular kind of adult who reaches midlife with no close friends. By the standard cultural reading, this configuration is interpreted as a social deficit. The adult is, in the available cultural vocabulary, lonely. They are isolated. They have, in some implied way, failed to maintain ...Read More

There is a particular kind of feeling that arrives, for many people, somewhere between forty and forty-five. It does not have the dramatic markers of a crisis. The person is not falling apart. They are still going to work. The marriage, if there is one, is still functioning. ...Read More

There is a particular kind of person, present in almost every workplace, who is universally described by their colleagues as emotionally intelligent. They notice the small shifts in the room. They catch the tension between two people before either of them has said anything. They know, often before ...Read More

In almost any room of more than a few people, there is a particular person whose presence carries a weight that the cultural framing does not easily account for. They are not, on examination, the loudest person in the room. They are not the most credentialed. They are ...Read More

The strong ones rarely fall apart in public. They fall apart in cars, in showers, in the ninety seconds between hanging up a hard phone call and walking back into a room where everyone is waiting for them to be fine. And by the time anyone notices the ...Read More