If your partner doesn’t trust you, say goodbye to these 6 behaviors

Having the nagging feeling that your partner doesn’t trust you is probably one of the worst feelings to have.

Are you just paranoid? Or is your partner really showing signs that they don’t trust you?

You know that trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship—and without it, relationships are easily broken.

But it doesn’t have to be a hopeless case.

All you need to do is be willing to put in the effort to make your partner trust you again, and the first thing you need to do is recognize the behaviors that makes your partner distrustful of you. 

Don’t worry—you’re not alone in this. We’ve got your back!

If you want to learn the behaviors you need to stop to make your partner trust you more, read more below:

1) Not giving enough reassurance

Partners with trust issues need enough reassurance for them to truly trust you.

But how much reassurance is enough reassurance?

Well, I can’t really give you an exact answer to that. 

All you need to have is the patience to give all the reassurance they need, especially when they’re unstable. 

Because when your partner is struggling with trust, denying them the reassurance they need can quickly blow things out of proportion.

Stop brushing off their concerns by telling them they’re overreacting or irrational—that’s only gonna make matters worse.

Instead, show empathy, listen, and be patient with them. 

That shows them that you love them enough to always make an effort to be there for them even when they’re at their worst. 

2) Insisting that “it’s okay” or “it’s nothing” when you’re struggling

Let’s address the elephant in the room here: you’re here right now because you have an insecure partner, and you don’t know how to help them.

The only way you know to help is to hide when you’re struggling, because you don’t want to be an added burden to their already long list of issues.

But this is actually counterproductive.

I know it can seem like you’re helping them when you try to deal with your own problems alone, but it can make them feel like you don’t trust them enough to help you. 

Remember that relationships are a two-way street—even if they’re struggling, of course, they will want to help you because they love you.

Because if you keep hiding things from them, it will only make them trust you less and less until they don’t trust you at all.

3) Hiding things from them

In all relationships, honesty and transparency are both important in building trust.

That’s why you should stop hiding things from your partner if you want them to trust you more.

Even if you feel like keeping certain things from them will protect their feelings, they’ll always know, and they’ll always get hurt when they find out that you’ve been keeping secrets.

Other than that, you’ll always feel like treading on eggshells when you keep things from them.

It’s just not a good situation to put yourself in, so if you want to build trust in your relationship, it’s time to stop keeping secrets. 

So don’t be afraid to be vulnerable with your partner. Tell them the truth, even if it’s hard, and even if it hurts them. 

Pain from the truth will always be better than pain from lies, don’t you think? 

4) Refusing to address their suspicions

When you’re with a partner with trust issues, you’ree bound to get a lot of suspicions.

They could be accusing you of doing things you didn’t do, they could misinterpret what you say…

…and it’s all very frustrating because it makes you feel like you’re constantly misunderstood.

The best way to deal with this is to address their suspicions. 

They might twist your words unconsciously because they’re always wary of getting hurt, so when they do that with you, it’s best to have the patience to gently tell them what you actually mean.

Refusing to address their suspicions, for them, means you’re confirming them. And if you don’t want the relationship to break, you must be patient enough to deal with them as they emerge.

5) Breaking promises

If you really want your partner to trust you, don’t ever, ever, break your promises, no matter how small.

Call them at the time you promised you would call.

Come home at the time you promised you’d be home.

Do the things you promised to do with them when you’re free.

Treat your promises with them as commitments that you can’t sacrifice over anything else because they are. 

Because when you don’t do that, they will feel like they’re never your priority. 

It will make them feel like you don’t love them.

And most of all, it will make them trust you less when you make promises next time.

6) Being unfaithful

Out of everything on this list, being unfaithful is probably the worst you could do to a partner with already existing trust issues.

I know some friends who were perfectly fine until they entered a relationship with a person who ended up cheating on them, and it ruined them.

To this day, they’re still dealing with the consequences of their ex’s actions. They’ve been dealing with the trust issues their ex caused longer than their relationship lasted.

What I’m trying to say is cheating is a severe breach of trust, and it doesn’t only ruin the relationship—it breaks the person you’re cheating on, too.

So if you cheated on your partner, there’s nothing else to do but apologize and leave. 

It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but you’re only hurting them more by staying in a relationship with a trust that cannot be mended.

But if cheating is not a mistake you’ve ever made—and will never think to make—there are still several ways for you to help your partner trust you more:

How to make them trust you

1) Always be reassuring

Rebuilding trust takes time and consistent effort. 

That’s why it’s crucial to reassure your partner if you want to show them that you’re committed to regaining their trust. 

When they seek assurance, let them know you understand their concerns and are willing to work through any doubts together. 

Consistent reassurance helps ease their worries and shows them your dedication to the relationship.

2) Don’t keep secrets

Complete honesty is essential in any relationship.

If you want your partner to trust you, avoid keeping secrets, even if you think they’re harmless. 

Transparency builds a foundation of trust—that’s why you need to be open about your activities, plans, and feelings all the time if you want your partner to trust you. 

When you show them you have nothing to hide, it reduces suspicion and paves the way for a more stable relationship.

3) Let them know they’re your priority

Make your partner feel valued and significant by making them a priority. 

Show them you’ll always make space for them in your life by spending quality time together, actively listening to everything they say, and showing genuine interest in their well-being. 

And when they see that you’re invested in the relationship, it makes them trusts you more.

4) Show them you love them

Love isn’t just about feeling certain things for someone—it’s about a constant effort to stay through the ups and downs, no matter how hard it gets.

So show your partner love in every way there is to show love.

Even the smallest gestures, like sending sweet messages or thoughtful little surprises, can make a significant impact. 

These consistent displays of love create a relationship where trust can flourish. When they see how you’re truly committed to the relationship, trust will naturally grow over time.

Final thoughts

It can be hard to be with a partner with trust issues, for sure, but with open communication, honesty, and constant effort and commitment, it’s possible to create a stronger, more trusting bond. 

Remember that healthy relationships are founded on trust, so always make an effort to show up for your partner every time they need you.

By understanding your partner’s concerns, being there for them, and showing them that you’re willing to work through every problem together, you create a more secure and ultimately healthier relationship.